Thanks for the inspiration always, Matthew Zachary Liu

A post by Matthew Zachary Liu, from Facebook.


Friends. We love them to bits because they bring joy and meaning to our lives – that’s the beauty of friendships. The tragedy of course, is when things go bad and we end up hating or walking out of the lives of the ones we love(d).

Sadly, friends drift apart all the time. Groups of friends we might have known from childhood, secondary school, poly or university will dwindle over time for varied reasons. You could be the "best of friends", sharing personal secrets and hanging out almost everyday but become awkward strangers the next season..

Because friendship is really just one of those indefinable words that mean different things to different people at different times. Most friendships are transient, they come and go with time, place and circumstances. Acquaintances may turn into friends, friends to something more.. and yet, sometimes, two people can just naturally drift apart without a reason or explanation; perhaps priorities changed (or we did).. and in the process, it became a mutually understandable natural separation. Friends turn into strangers again. No need for apologies or goodbyes. We just go on and get by. Are became were. Strangers with memories. Memories of a time and moment when we were once friends.

Anyway, I was just thinking about a certain something regarding friendship.. in our lifetime, we all have and will have our different expectations and kinds of friendship. 

Strangers. Acquaintances. Friends. Good friends. Close friends. Best friend. They each mean something distinctly different to each of us. Or to me at least. 

There is certain this theory on 6 degrees of separation.. this is my "6 depts of friendship". 

1) Strangers
We may only meet them once in our lives. Maybe for an hour, maybe for a moment. Maybe we won't even get or remember their names. It doesn't matter. Because the beauty of strangers in our lives is, when our paths coincide in that moment.. they make an impact or leave us with lessons that we learn. Because maybe they aren't meant to be a part of our lives. Maybe their whole purpose was to step in and step out at certain points in our lives.. to guide us, to warn us, to test us, to remind us. Like a guardian angel or the devil's advocate. Whatever it is, it happened. They happened. They walked into our lives for a brief moment but as they continue to walk away in that same encounter, they leave us with something.

2) Acquaintances
This is a level just below strangers. Acquaintances are the ones we might encounter more than once. But we don't know them and they might not know us. Or maybe they do. They know of you as you do of their existence. But you don't know each other. You know OF each other. Encounters with acquaintances are seasonal. They are people you might see occasionally around at camps, campus, your neighbourhood or the work place. You might smile at each other in recognition or acknowledgement but you don't know each other. You only know OF each other. The difference between an acquaintance and friend is that decision to get to know each other.

3) Friends
But even "friends" are complex.. there are different layers to friendship. A friend may just mean two people who met and know each other through circumstances or maybe situational settings. Same class, same department, same social network. You get along. Maybe you need to get along because you need to use each other. Projects. Work. Access to people and places. To me, the most basic and loosely used definition of "friend" merely serves a functional purpose. Two people don't really care that much about each other.. they just get along for the sake of needing each other for a certain purpose. 

4) Good friend
Good friends though are the foundations of a friendship. Besides the genuinely good times you share with these friends, you guys go deeper than the superficial. Your good friends know you. Your good friends want to matter in your life. And likewise, you want to matter to them as well. The thing about good friends that sets them apart from "friends" is that in your moment of despair, desperation or greatest joy, your good friends are the ones who will know how much it means to you and will go out of their own way to be there for you in person. They will matter and make it matter to them as well because it matters to you and you matter to them. Hmm I might not make sense but I guess my point is.. good or true friends are the ones who knows when to step in and when to step back but will never step out of your life.

5) Close friend
And then there are the rare few, the ones where conversations goes deeper than words spoken, when the laughter makes you tear and the silence is perfectly comfortable; when time seem to stop but hours pass too quickly and before you know it, you've actually grown up together through the years.. that's when you might come to this beautiful embracement that it doesn't matter where you are or what you do.. it's simply these close friend(s) that you're sharing the moment with that makes it really special. As is the friendship. 

6) Best friend
Your best friend.. is the one who is like your soul mate. The one who will be willing to go through or do everything with you. Even if lands the both of you in jail. Even if it means flying across the continent for a once-in-a-lifetime moment of yours. They will be that one friend who will cry the hardest and stay the longest at your funeral. And quite frankly speaking, they may never ever recover from your death should you ever leave them too soon. Your best friend loves you. And you love your best friend too. It's this mutual connection and acceptance and everything strangely perfect that only the two of you will ever understand. Not even your future husband or wife will get it or have this thing that bonds you and your best friend. 

You know, I write this post after much pondering on what friendship means to me.. because there were many nights before where i'd lay in the dark scrolling through my phone wanting to just call a friend up to say, "hey", but it hit me like - who can I just randomly call or message at 4am in the night and say hey and they'd be okay with it? That started a whole inward dissecting of the term friendship as well as my relationship with every individual in my life. My weakess is that i love(d) too much. So it was always very hard for me to let go and move on when the other person already has or probably doesn't even care.

To be honest, i've gone through some really rock bottom hard times in the last two years. But that awakened me. To life, to love, to friendship. 

And what i've personally learnt is not to live a life constantly trying to seek the love and approval from everyone. We don't need everyone. Just a few right ones. The right ones are good enough. And it's these few right ones that we need to let down our walls and let them embrace us with their sincere love especially when we think we don't deserve it or when we're too weak on our own.

Then, when we're better again or as soon as we realize who this someone or these individuals are who love us dearly, always remember and appreciate them for being there for you, with you, no matter how tiring or painful it may be for them.. and in turn, be there for them when they need you as well. Because it's all these little acts of concern and love in our most desperate and trying times, that will come to mean the most.

And even if people come and go, as they always will.. let them. Let it be. But be grateful. Because for every person that has every walked into our lives, we are a sum total of all our relationships, past and present, mixed together with our own peculiar personality. Every single person we've met along the way, no matter how long we've known them or how much we've shared during those times, have definitely made us who we are today in little ways we might not even have realized ourselves.

All these people are there for a reason. They give meaning and often leave an impact at various stages of our lives. And its all these special moments that are to be treasured because although friendships may not always last forever, its these memories that do.

I'm living my social life different now. I know who are the ones I love and who love me as well. And I want to live a life spending more meaningful moments with them before my time is up, whenever it happens. Because.. i'm not very good at this but.. with some of the individuals in my existing life who've always tried and always been there through the very trying times, i'm learning to try too - to be a better person and friend. For you. 



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好想離開城市，離開吉隆坡，離開家裡一陣子。
到個少人的地方，靜一靜腦袋，讓思緒清一清醒。

每天晚上思绪凌乱
怎么了

我到底怎么了

而你
还好吗？

Merry Christmas, Bob - by Chris Shugart

It's an article that worth to keep in mind.

"So, what are you doing for a living these days?" Bob asked me. We're sitting on the couch at one of those tedious holiday get-togethers, you know, the ones where you're supposed to be nice to family members you never see except during major holidays and funerals. I think Bob is my wife's brother-in-law's second cousin or something.

"I'm the assistant editor and a writer for Testosterone magazine," I say. Bob looks at me with a blank expression on his face, as if I'd just told him I sell handmade testicle warmers beside the freeway and was looking to open franchises across the nation.

"It's a bodybuilding magazine," I say.

Blank expression. Deer caught in the headlights. Ronnie Coleman doing trigonometry.

"Oh," Bob finally says, "I heard you were, like, one of those bodybuilder guys or something. So, what's that like, you know, working out every day and stuff? I just don't have time to lift weights all day, but I have been meaning to get rid of this beer belly." He takes another sip of beer. "What do you suggest?" Sip.

At first I was a little offended. I wanted to grab him up and say, "You can't tell I'm a bodybuilder?! Look at my ass! Now, if that's not a nice round squat-built piece of sirloin, I don't know what is! You think that comes naturally? I can crack walnuts with this puppy! Wanna see? Huh, punk? Do ya? Do ya?"

Then I realize this just might cause a scene and could cost me several Christmas presents. I was planning on returning any presents I got and using the money to buy a power rack, so I didn't want to jeopardize this gift getting opportunity. I also realized that old Bob probably had a certain preconceived image of a bodybuilder and I just didn't fit that image. I'm not gorilla huge; I weigh about 205 at 5'11" right now. (When I first started lifting I was a pudgy 159, so that's not too shabby.) Also, I wasn't wearing clown pants, a fluorescent string tank top, a hanky on my head and one of those little fanny packs. And isn't that what real bodybuilders are supposed to wear?

Bob continued to sit there drinking his Natural Light, smoking a cigarette and waiting for an answer, oblivious to the fact that he'd come this close to seeing some serious walnut- crunching ass power. I tried to figure out how I could explain to the average guy what the typical T-Man does and why he does it. How could I get him to understand what it is we do, how we feel, how we live? So I took a deep breath and told him something like this:

"Well, Bob, I guess you could use the term bodybuilder if you really need a label for what it is we do. Most of us actually don't stand on stage and compete, though. We lift weights and manipulate our diets so that we'll look good naked. Sure, it's healthy too, and we'll probably live a longer and more productive life than the average guy, but mostly it's about the naked thing. Truthfully, it goes beyond even that.

"Let's be honest here. We do it because of people like you, Bob. We look at you sitting there with your gut hanging over your belt and we watch you grunt and groan just getting out of a chair. Guys like you are our inspiration, Bob. You're better than Anthony Robbins, Bill Phillips, Deepak Chopra, and Zig fucking Ziglar all wrapped up into one. We love it when guys like you talk about not having time to exercise. Every time we see you munching on a bag of potato chips, you inspire us. You're my shot in the arm, Bob, my living and breathing wake-up call, my own personal success coach.

"You want to know what it is we do? We overcome. We're too busy to train, too, but we overcome. We're too busy to prepare healthy meals and eat them five or six times a day, but we overcome. We can't always afford supplements, our genetics aren't perfect, and we don't always feel like going to the gym. Some of us used to be just like you, Bob, but guess what? We've overcome.

"We like to watch 'normal' people like you tell us about how they can't get in shape. We smile and nod sympathetically like we feel your pain, but actually, we're thinking that you're a pathetic piece of shit that needs to grow a spine and join a gym. You smile sheepishly and say that you just can't stay motivated and just can't stand that feeling of being sore. (For some reason you think that admitting your weaknesses somehow justifies them.) We listen to you bitch and moan. We watch you look for the easy way out. Because of people like you, Bob, we never miss a workout.

"You ask us for advice about diet and training and usually we politely offer some guidance, but deep inside we know you won't take our advice. You know that too. We smile and say, 'Hope that helps. Good luck,' but actually we're thinking, 'Boy, it would suck to be you.' We know that 99% of people won't listen to us. Once they hear that it takes hard work, sacrifice and discipline, they stop listening and tune us out.

"We know they wanted us to say that building a great body is easy, but it just isn't. This did not take five minutes a day on a TorsoTrack. We did not get this way in 12 short weeks using a Bowflex and the Suzanne Somers' 'Get Skinny' diet. A good body does not cost five easy payments of $39.95.

"We like it that while you're eating a candy bar and drinking Mountain Dew, we're sucking down a protein shake. You see, that makes it taste even better to us. While you're asleep we're either getting up early or staying up late, hitting the iron, pushing ourselves, learning, succeeding and failing and rising above the norm with every rep. Can you feel that, Bob? Can you relate? No? Good. This wouldn't be half as fun if you could.

"We do it because we absolutely and totally get off on it. We do it because people like you, Bob, either can't or won't. We do it because what we do in the gym transfers over into the rest of our lives and changes us, physically, mentally, maybe even spiritually. We do it because it beats watching fishing and golf on TV. By the way, do you know what it's like to turn the head of a beautiful woman because of the way you're built? It feels good, Bob. Damned good.

"When we're in the gym, we're in this indescribable euphoria zone. It's a feeling of being on, of being completely alive and aware. If you haven't been there, then it's like trying to describe color to a person who's been blind since birth. Within this haze of pleasure and pain, there's knowledge and power, self-discipline and self-reliance. If you do it long enough, Bob, there's even enlightenment. Sometimes, the answers to questions you didn't even know you had are sitting there on those rubber mats, wrapped up in a neat package of iron plates and bars.

"Want to lose that beer belly, Bob? I have a nutty idea. Put down the fucking beer. I'll tell you what, Bob. Christmas morning I'm getting up real early and hitting the iron. I want to watch my daughter open her presents and spend the whole day with her, so this is the only time I have to train. The gym will be closed, so I'm going out in my garage to workout. You be at my house at six in the morning, okay? I'll be glad to help you get started on a weight training program. It'll be colder than Hillary Clinton's coochie in there, so dress warm.

"But let me tell you something, Bob. If you don't show up, don't bother asking me again. And don't you ever sit there and let me hear you bitch about your beer belly again. This is your chance, your big opportunity to break out of that rut. If you don't show up, Bob, you've learned a very important lesson about yourself, haven't you? You won't like that lesson.

"You won't like that feeling in the pit of your stomach either or that taste in your mouth. It will taste worse than defeat, Bob. Defeat tastes pretty goddamned nasty, but what you'll be experiencing will be much worse. It will be the knowledge that you're weak, mentally and physically. What's worse is that you'll have accepted that feeling. The feeling will always be with you. In the happiest moments of your life, it'll be there, lying under the surface like a malignant tumor. Ignore it at your own peril, Bob.

"Don't look at me like that either. This just may be the best Christmas present you'll get this year. Next Christmas, Bob, when I see you again, I'm going to be a little bigger, a little stronger, and a little leaner. What will you be? Will you still be making excuses? This is a gift, Bob, from me to you. I'm giving you the chance to look fate in those pretty eyes of hers and say, 'Step off, bitch. This is my party and you're not invited.' What do you say, Bob? Monday, Christmas morning, 6am, my house. The ball's in your court."

Okay, so maybe that's not the exact words I used with Bob, but you get the picture. Will Bob show up Monday? I don't know, but I kind of doubt it. In fact, Bob will probably take me off his Christmas card list. He probably thinks I've got "too much Testosterone," like that's a bad thing. I think Bob is just stuck in a rut, and as the saying goes, the only difference between a rut and a grave is depth.

The way out of the rut is to make major changes in your life, most of which won't be too pleasant in the beginning. The opportunity to make those changes seldom comes as bluntly as I put it to Bob. Most of the time, that opportunity knocks very softly. What I did was basically give Bob a verbal slap in the face. You can react two ways to a slap. You can get angry at the person doing the slapping, or you can realize that he was just trying to get you to wake up and focus on what you really want and, more importantly, what it'll take to get it.

If you're a regular T-mag reader, I doubt you need to be called out like Bob. But maybe you've caught yourself slacking a little here lately. Maybe you've missed a few workouts or maybe you started a little too early on the usual holiday feasting, like, say, back in September. Just remember that the time to start working on that summer body is now. The time to get rid of those bad habits that hold you back in the gym is now. You want to look totally different by next Christmas? Start now. This isn't because of the holidays or any corny New Year's resolutions either. The best time is always now.

Christmas day I want you to enjoy being with your family and friends. I want you to open presents, sip a little eggnog and have a good meal. But if your regularily scheduled workout happens to fall on December 25th, what will you be doing at six o'clock that morning?

That's what separates us from guys like Bob.

你在哪里

笑容

你在哪里

诚恳

你在哪里

坦诚

你在哪里

你

你在哪里

I will always remember the special one &

No way to forget any single thing of us

我们的欢笑之旅- Pulau Perhentian

15/7/2013 - 19/7/2013

看似长长的一趟旅程，但对大家而言，却是短短的.. ...
看似贵贵的一趟旅程，但对大家而言，这是值得的... ...

第一次自己努力工作赚钱让自己静一静心地去旅行，感觉非凡。

这趟旅程，将会是几只瓜的毕旅，
这趟旅程，也可能是舞者们或游乐园同伴唯一同在一起的一次旅行

12 个小时，漫长的火车车程，虽说屁股隐隐作痛的说，
但在这12小时里头，正是大家互相了解，分享音乐的喜悦。
这12个小时，
看着大家爱睡但又因为火车很吵的关系睡不着的样子；
看着大家非常期待踏入 Tanah Merah 火车站的样子，还蛮好玩的

15/7, 祝我生日快乐！
好特别的生日礼物，好特别的一次经历
感谢妈妈与爸爸，点了个头让我有机会踏上火车，船只，一路到达停泊岛
感恩妈妈与舅舅，载着几只大小猴子到　KL Sentral, 一路上有说有笑，好好笑

想回来，还蛮想念的
看着妈妈和朋友打成一片的样子，
看着妈妈和朋友一起欺负女儿的样子，我看傻了。
好可爱

间中快乐的回忆，我相信那会是永远的烙印在大家的脑海里，
深深地刻上欢乐的记忆

Board Game & Music Time ! 

Music & Chilling Time !

Snorkeling & Light House You-Jump-I-Jump Time !

*paiseh, aku takut. im on the boat*

Pictionary Time !

TOBY ! YELLOW SUBMARINE! walao eh

Long Beach. Few hours before heading back :'(

A Special Group photo :)

the MEN !

the LADIES ! 

你，我，他
感恩大家让我有机会彼此了解认识。
一趟特别的旅程，拥有独特的回忆。

你，我，他
谢谢大家对我无微不至的照顾
虽说我年龄较小，但我希望我有发挥到巨蟹座常说的母爱精神，把同房的小女孩们照顾好好的:)

有时静静在谈天的时候，
说着说着，眼泪快流了。但不行，忍着啊林羽芳
以后见面的机会，谈天说地的机会，游山玩水的机会，来着来着！

回家途中，思绪上涌
一幕幕飘过脑海，感觉一切太快了

小女孩，旅游完毕
小女孩，快毕业了
小女孩与朋友们，不久将踏入社会大学，看看外面的世界
好希望，我是个长不大的小女孩

虽然电话坏了，照片没了，
但记忆永存

picture credit to See Hau, nice view. 

i miss this. 

the Jetty, the Sand, the Bridge, the Scene. the Us.

这趟旅程，我似乎长大了，但有时又像个长不大的猴子
每个人有不同的特质，我从大家身上学习了不少

苑如　Yen Yee,
单纯爱微笑的女孩，兴趣背景都与我相像
（我们同床，当然！）
凡是迁就大家，大家开心她就开心，这是我要学习的

淑芬　Su Fen,
斯斯文文的女孩，拥有超级大的音乐库存在他的脑里头
美丽又有魅力的女孩，市场不小啊
市场大小我就不必多想，但她斯文又聪明的特质，是我要学习的

敏佳　Min Jia,
可爱的傻大姐，玩笑总是慢半拍
与大家的沟通关系良好，谁都能搭得上话，这是我要学习的

耀鸿　Yao Hong，
老人棒是属于他的了！
傻傻的看着你大笑，总能和大家打成一片
说话技巧好，脑筋又转的快快的特质，这是我要学习的

耀中　Yao Zhong,
有时慌神了一会儿，呆呆的样子看着你
和哥哥一样，傻傻的看着你笑
体贴照顾好每一个队员，这是我要学习的

健傑　Jian Jee,
常欺骗大家的大骗子，又是整组的大阿哥
有他与 YH 在一起的地方，欢笑声就在这开心的氛围下弥漫着
凡是都已规划好好，让大家安心的走走
拥有好好规划一切的特质，是我要学习的

思孝　See Hau,
音乐细胞超级多的说，
常怀颗坚持的心与努力学习的态度，这是我要学习的

当然还有几只猴子朋友！

Link, 深藏不漏的幽默越南孩子！
Ken, 就如 YenYee 所说，常常面带笑容又有邻家哥哥的感觉
Michelle, 一笑惊天地的功利，是大家的开心果啊
Bryan, 开黄腔挺不错的又带幽默喜感的感觉总让大家乐翻天
Kai Qing, 看似小小只，吃起来的分量超惊人的孩子
Donovan, 去到哪里都能倒头大睡的孩子，常与越南孩子来个 International Fight 的时刻超好玩

谢谢你们

好特别的旅程

好期待下次的疯癫之旅

我们还有机会吗？你们会回来吗？

爸妈，谢谢您

21 岁，说大不大，说小又不再是小小孩了

感恩父母

养育之恩，及一切一切

感恩亲人

我爱喧哗热闹的家，温馨的笑声总围绕着我

感恩弟弟

一份特别的礼物，热闹了整个气氛

感恩小经理

抽空出席，谢谢您

感恩大家

友谊永固的感觉，真棒. 

游乐园之日

当我提起：“我要去图书馆啃书啦"

大家都以为我神经病了

一个逃课专家，懒惰专员竟然开口呐喊：我要温习功课啦！

我的游乐园同伴们

一同相处的日子不算多，但了解非浅

我的游乐园同伴们

不停照顾、支持、指导着我

我的游乐园同伴们

与 Zoo Keeper 同心协力地把我关牢牢在座位上，确保我有读书

我的游乐园，就是人人发愤图强的地方 - 图书馆

~ 8.46pm 嫦娥奔月
~ General Knowledge 

~ Dinner Chilling Time

原来，温习功课，是可以很有趣，也可以是毕生难忘的时刻

短短的一个月，让我感触蛮深的

感恩大家的鼓励，我全数及格 :)
虽说没有辉煌的成绩，但过关对没信心的我来说，已是个大大的突破

我开始想念了

以后还会有吗？

2012 与 2013 的我，真舒服 ==

Gam Xia Gam Xia :)

有一些感覺，不知往後到了社會大學的生涯上是否還在

有一些感覺，就是特別

相識真的不久，但談起話來滔滔不絕; 

相識真的不久，但對方對自己的了解非淺;

相識真的不久，但把自己當成長輩似的叮嚀著像個猴子一樣的孩子

就是這一些感覺，帶著真心，我們更要珍惜

這些感覺，好溫馨，像家人一樣的感覺。

真的非常謝謝你們，我會乖乖的。

D.R.E.A.M.S.

今年的主题 - D.R.E.A.M.S

小小的梦，大大的启发

去年的 5月，我是以一个小小的观众坐在台下拍掌，微笑

今年的 5月，原是以一个小小的舞者站在台上演出，微笑

配合今年的主题，今年的演出机会对我而言，就是一场梦

以前因和老师怄气的关系，放弃了芭蕾舞

*EQ 低的后果 - 后悔莫及*

现在乘着还未踏入社会大学，多多参与学校活动，热热身子

为了圆梦，突如其来的参加了舞蹈社

加入了摩登芭蕾，感觉像是回到小时候，听着幽幽的音乐，翩翩起舞

舞蹈社里的朋友，与在我脑海的感觉印象完全不一样

在还未接触以前，总觉得舞蹈社很混乱，穿着总是与世人不拉噶的，花天酒地的，摸上摸下的等等

在自己接触了之后，我看见有很多读书很棒的，社交很好的，有义气，有人情味的

更好的是，大家对大家的相处很融洽，互相照顾的

我在里面，变出了很多只“小动物”成为我的好朋友 :)

不幸的，我受伤了。刚开始的打击，不小。

听着一首熟悉的歌，一个我熟悉舞步的歌。

舞步不断在脑海里打转，但肢体却不允许我的举动。

当治疗师，医生亲口说：I'm sorry girl. You seriously could't join any exercise and dances now. You have to tell your teacher and friends, quit from May concert, and rest more.

眼眶泛泪，但又不敢让他人知道，甚至是妈妈

撑了好久才提起勇气到老师面前说退出演出；

还以为我是个活泼坚强的女孩，到最后，我还是个哭包子。

可能这是要告诉我，我不是铁人，无法样样都有我的份

读书，工作，舞蹈，佛学班；总要学会取舍

好好读书，最后一年了，就一定要拼够够力！

梁文音说：“哭过就好了，伤痛会好的”

哭过了，这教导了我，学会从不一样的角度付出

台前，是娱乐大家的布施

幕后，是圆满场面的付出

梦... ...

我相信总有一天能站在台上实现的。可能会以不一样的方式呈现，
who knows? :)

“爸，我妈在哪？”

有一个单亲母亲，白天在富人家里做女佣，晚上回家与四岁的儿子相依为命。主人知道了女佣的情况后，给她和孩子腾出个房间，说，把孩子接来吧，今后你们吃住都在我家里，一切免费，不扣你的一分钱薪水。
　　女佣道了谢，说算了，不麻烦你们了，主人没再坚持，这个事就过去了。其实女佣有自己的担心，主人家的大房子里，光洗手间就十几个，最小的洗手间，也比她家的房子大，她不知道在贫穷与富有的巨大落差前，对一个四岁的孩子将会产生什么影响。
　　有一天，主人要在家里请客，要请好多好多人，人手明显的不够了。主人与女佣商量说，今天您能不能晚点回家，我这里缺人手，现找来不及，只好麻烦您了。
　　女佣说，行啊，就是有点担心我的儿子，他晚上见不到我会害怕的。
　　主人说，这好办，您现在就去把他接过来，晚饭在我这里吃，和客人一起吃就行了。
　　女佣把儿子接过来时，客人正陆续抵达，她没领儿子从正门进来，走的侧门，然后把他藏在一间主人不大光顾的洗手间里。 
　　她从主人厨房里拿来一个盘子，从自己口袋里掏出香肠和面包，这是她在回家路上特意给儿子买的。
　　孩子从来没见过这么气派和华丽无比的房间，他不认识抽水马桶，不认识大理石洗漱台上摆放的那些色彩斑斓、晶莹剔透的瓶瓶罐罐，屋里好闻的气味让他幸福到简直要晕倒了。女佣告诉儿子说，妈妈带你来参加宴会，你是小孩，不能和大人一起吃，这是宴会主人特意为你准备的单间。
　　孩子想把餐盘放到洗漱台上，但他个头太矮，有点够不着，只好放到了马桶盖上，他坐在漂亮瓷砖铺就的地面上，一边唱歌，一边吃着这些平时很难吃到的美味佳肴。
　　很快，在富丽堂皇的宴会大厅里，主人没发现孩子的身影，就去问女佣。女佣支支唔唔的说，我一直在忙着，没时间照看他，也许，或许，可能，他是在外面的草坪上自己玩吧。
　　主人似乎明白了什么，他离开宴会大厅，把整幢房子的所有房间都找遍了，最后在一个位于角落的洗手间里，找到了孩子。
　　主人问，你怎么能在这里吃东西呀， 
　　你知道这是什么地方吗？
　　孩子答，我妈妈说，这是宴会主人特意为我准备的单间，今天的香肠太好吃了，我好久好久没吃过了，对了，你是谁呀，这么好吃的香肠我可不能一个人吃，你愿意陪我在这里吃这些美味吗？
　　主人强忍泪水点了点头，用最灿烂的笑容面对着孩子，他已经不需要再问什么了。此刻，他想起了当初随父母来纽约的经历，那时他们也很贫寒，也经历过十分艰辛的时期。
　　回到宴会大厅，主人对客人们说，很抱歉了朋友们，我现在必须得去陪一位特殊的客人，请大家慢慢享用吧，我不能和你们共进晚餐了。说完，他装了满满两大盘子孩子最爱吃的佳肴，端到洗手间里，他模仿孩子的样子，也把餐盘放到马桶盖上，也坐在地上，然后对孩子说，这么好的一个单间和美食，你一个人独享就可惜了，来来来，让我们一起吃晚餐。
　　主人和孩子一边吃着东西一边唱歌，也聊了很多话题，他让这个四岁的孩子坚信，他的母亲是世界上最勤劳、最伟大的母亲，你不但应该为她感到骄傲， 
　　长大以后还要为她做些事情，而孩子直到现在也不知道他的母亲仅仅是佣人。
　　客人们发现主人端走两大盘子食物后，再也没回来，觉得蹊跷，也去寻找，当他们看到情同父子的两个人坐在地上，围着马桶盖吃东西的场面，被深深震撼了。这些被称为上层人士或社会精英的人们，端着酒杯和美味纷纷赶过来，很快把洗手间挤满了，大家给孩子唱了好多好听的歌曲，表达了太多美好的祝愿，这些都让这个孩子确信，他的母亲是最令人尊敬的母亲，而他，则是世界上最幸福的人。
　　很多年后，这个孩子长大成人，他不但拥有了自己的事业，也买下了拥有几间洗手间的大房子，进入到上流社会。每年，他以匿名方式捐了很多钱给穷人，但从不举行捐赠仪式或接受采访，他对始终不理解的朋友们说，我永远忘不了在很多年前的某一天，有一位富人和太多的富人，用他们的诚恳与良知，维护了一个四岁孩子的尊严。
　　感觉有收获请转发一下吧。
　　为你做牛做马的女人就是妈,你怎能不爱她?
3岁时：妈咪，我爱你。　　　　
10岁时：妈，随便啦。　　　　　
16岁时：我妈真的很烦。　　　　
18岁时：想要离开这个家。
25岁：妈，你当时是对的。　　　　 
30岁时：我想要去我妈家。　　　　 
50岁：我不想要失去我妈。　　　 
70岁：只要我妈还能在这，我愿意为了我妈放弃一切。

对于妈妈，我们说的话最多的是：
“妈，我衣服在哪？”
“妈，咱们晚饭吃什么？”
“妈，我能出去么？”
“妈，我饿了。”　　


而对于爸爸，说的最多的话是：“爸，我妈在哪？”　　
　　　
每过一年妈妈头上的白发也比去年要多了，希望妈妈快乐生活，身体健康!
我们只有一个妈，怎能不爱她！